I received an email from a friend the other day. In his short opening paragraph he said, "Guess I want to know whether or not I'm the only one feeling like things are challenging these days for the whole... or is it just me? Ever feel like this can't be it? That there has to be more happiness shortly coming? Guess I'm kinda feeling like this is as good as it gets. I know I wrong, but?"
My response was even shorter: "If you know you're wrong then what's the 'but' for?" Sounds a bit harsh but I guess it was my form of a reality check. In my mind's weird way of working in any given moment - it is as good as it gets. It may not be the way you want it or the way you think it should be - but at that particular point in time, it REALLY is as good as it gets. And if you don't feel things are the way you desire them to be, ask yourself a question - "are you doing the best that you can?" Stop and really think about it. How many times do you take on a project or get into something and really give it your best? Are do you often just skate by, only giving a percentage of your skill, effort and energy. How often do you really try to be your best and wish the best for others - even those you've just met?
My fifth grade teacher used to say it all the time. "All I expect is for you to do your best because at the end of the day that's really all you can do."
In a perfect world everyone would put their best foot forward every single day. Think about how different things would be.
But in reality, most people don't always put their best foot forward unless they really have to. Most don't try to be their best and a large number don't always wish the best for people.
But if you forced yourself to perform at your best, and wished the best for people at all times you would simply get the best in return.
By being at your best you attract and meet positive, supportive people who respect you and enjoy your company and give you the best they have to offer.
By being your best you attract the best in every situation, you attract the best outcomes and you attract the right people.
Because when you are at your best you exude the right energy that draws the best people, situations and circumstances to help you achieve greater success in all areas of your life.
This means that you don't get caught up in what other people think about you. You don't get caught up in success the way the society defines it. Instead you focus on being the best possible person you can.
Let's face it - you simply won't be able to please all of the people all of the time.
So don't waste time and energy trying to please everybody - focus on being your best and you'll attract the best.
Start by focusing on what you like about yourself. Think of all the positive qualities that you have and everyday compliment yourself for the positive qualities that you have.
When you do this - you focus on your best qualities, which naturally pushes you to be your best.
You are a unique human being - there's no one else like you - no one and that automatically makes you the best.
Now you just have to believe it.