Sunday, August 20, 2006


Someone forwarded me these in an email and it is the first list that I actually really liked so I thought I'd share. I'd love to hear any others that you may want to add. I have a few but I'll save mine for later. Also, is there one you DON'T agree with? I have one of those too. I'll also save it for later. :)

1. Never apologize for pursuing what makes you happy. Even if you need to quit your job, transfer schools, or move across country, always do what you really want.

2. Never apologize for using proper English. Keeping it real doesn't mean you have to speak Ebonics.

3. Never apologize for giving your best in a relationship that just didn't work out.

4. Never apologize for being successful. Only haters want to keep you at their level.

5. Never apologize for crying. Wear waterproof mascara and express yourself.

6. Never apologize for ten pounds you need to lose. People who truly care about you will accept you as you are.

7. Never apologize for being frugal. Just because you save your money instead of blowing it on the latest fashion emergency doesn't mean
you're cheap.

8. Don't apologize for being a single Mom. Babies are a blessing.

9. Never apologize for treating yourself to something special. Sometimes you have to show yourself some appreciation.

10. Never apologize for leaving an abusive relationship. Your safety should always be a priority.

11. Never apologize for keeping the ring even if you did not get married.

12. Never apologize for setting high standards in a relationship. You know what you can tolerate and what simply gets on your nerves.

13. Never apologize for saying NO.

14. Never apologize for wearing a weave or braids. You bought it so it's yours.

15. Never apologize to your new friends about old friends. There's a reason she's been your girl from day one.

16. Never apologize for ordering dessert or more than one dessert.

17. Never apologize for dating outside your race. Just because you found Mr. Right across the color line doesn't mean you don't love your brothas.

18. Never apologize for demanding respect. You are to always be treated as a queen.

19. Never apologize for not knowing how to cook. Even if you can't burn like Grandma you know how to order good take out. (Right Girl!)

20. Never apologize for your taste in clothes. It's your style.

21. Never apologize for changing your mind, it is your prerogative.

22. Never apologize for making a decision from your heart, even if others don't agree. You have to live with the consequences not them.

23. Never apologize for making more money than your man, you work hard
and you deserve to get paid.

24. Never apologize for being you! "KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND KEEP MOVING FORWARD"


  1. Hi Nikki: Wonderful list you have there; I completely agree. I love the "be yourself" message it sends out.

  2. Hi Elsie: "Being yourself" is definately a process that I am still fine tuning but it's so liberating to say, "this is who I am, take it or leave it". I also stopped by your blog and you have a wonderful talent drawing the reader into your life with your words. Thank you for being you!

  3. I like the list, too. The only one I would question is #11 -keeping the ring. If the guy tells you to keep the ring, that's one thing. But if he doesn't tell you that, I think you should give it back, no matter what.

    I don't understand why a woman would want to keep a ring to remind her of a marriage that didn't happen. If she's the one who broke it off, I think she should definitely give it back.

    I also think women should know the basics of cooking. They don't have to be gourmet chefs. They don't have to cook every day. However, knowing how to prepare some simple dishes, especially if you have a husband and/or children, is practical. It also shows that you care about your family.

    Again, great list!

  4. So funny Deb! You said exactly what I was thinking.