Gearing Up For 2006 - Day 9

Almost there, guys! It's day nine and it's going to be heartwarming to see some of the answers. Today's question:

For what I am grateful?

I am grateful for so many things: God's grace, family support, a challenging career, decent health, etc.

But the thing that I am most grateful for is my children. They are my motivating factor for everything that I do. I am head over heels in love with them and I appreciate them for the wonderful human beings that they are. Just looking at the world through their eyes has restored some of my childlike wonder and astonishment. Nothing is quite as special when they are not around. And I am so proud to be their mother.

Gearing up for 2006 - Day Eight

So we're rolling on to day eight - which just happens to be a national holiday for Martin Luther King's birthday. And today's question seemed kind of fitting. Why? Well, Martin Luther King, Jr. faced some seemingly insurmountable challenges and was able to successfully overcome most of them. So today, let's talk about:

What were my biggest challenges? How did I overcome them?

Publishing my book was one of my biggest challenges but I think I've beaten that horse into the ground. So, the next biggest challenge was my eating habits. I can resort to psycho babble and say that for most of my life, I have not had the best relationship with food. I don't think food has ever been my friend. In fact - though I hardly ever talk about it - I have had an eating disorder (of one variety or another) for the majority of my teen and adult years. That was a rough one. This past year has been about healing whatever pain my eating patterns have been a symptom of. I know it's about self image and self esteem but I still think it has to be something more than that. When I was raped in college, things went into over drive and I became dangerously unhealthy. I've gotten better, but am by no means cured. Though I am not in the throws of any eating disorder, I still don't view food as my friend. For the sake of my health and the values that I impart to my children, I want to change that. I took some major steps in 2005 to do that but still have a few to go.

Whew.

That was a tough one.

Gearing Up For 2006 - Day Seven

I'm back! Things got a little hectic in my world so I had to take a few days off but I wanted to start again today with our questions that are designed to put us in the right mindset for the new year. We are relating, reflecting and releasing!

What were the fun things I did? The not-so-fun?

Some of the fun things I did this year: a book signing in Bermuda, got a professional bra fitting (don't knock it 'til you try it), complete makeover, vacation with my husband in Jamaica.

Some of the not-so-fun things: I really can't think of any. You?

Gearing Up For 2006 - Day Six

So now we're at day 6. And this was one for the journal. I actually started thinking about it yesterday and still am a bit perplexed. I answered it but then the question seemed to beg for a response with a deeper meaning. So I scrapped the original answer and thought some more. Let's see how you do with this one.

What did I do right?


Well, well, well. I accomplished a lot this year and I think that ties into one of the biggest things I did right. I went after my dreams and made no apologies about it. I stepped outside of the box, challenged my self to take it up a notch, reinvented myself on several different levels, etc. etc. etc. For so long I have been scared, ashamed, apologetic about being successful. Don't ask my why or when it happened but it did. And even when I accomplished something, I didn't feel good about it. But last year that changed. So all I can say is, "Watch out for me in 2006". It's about to be on!

Gearing up for 2005 - Day Five

So we're halfway there and you guys are doing very well! A+ for your contributions.

What were the three most significant events of the last year?

I think most of us can agree: Hurricane Katrina, Hurricane Rita and Hurricane Wilma came through and changed the way we see change America's response time to natural disasters. We also saw how such a tragedy will effect race relations in America. May be cliche but it also brought home how blessed my life is. I don't want have to lose everything to appreciate that. And in 2006, I will keep my focus on that.

Gearing Up For 2006 - Day Four

We're almost to the midway point of our reflection exercise. Thanks to all that participate. Today's question is a good one so here we go.

What did I complete or release?

Easier Said Than Done, my debut novel. I completed it, published it and even sold a few copies. (smile) As for things I released: a lot of negative feelings. I tend to harbor and one thing I really wanted to work on in 2005 was my ability to forgive and my victim mentality. AND I worked hard on it. Haven't gotten all the way there but it was important for me to release the anger that has been swirling inside of me for the man that raped me my sophomore year in college. Yes, it has been that long. I finally sat down and thought about all the side effects that manifested in my life because of that anger and I realized that I was continuing to victimize myself. I had to make a choice: let it go or be a victim for the rest of my life. I chose not to be a victim.

Gearing up for 2006 - Day Three

We're rolling on with day three. And our question is: (DRUM ROLL PLEASE)

What would I have done differently? Why?

I really don't believe in do overs. I think every things happens for a reason and from every situation - a chance to grow. And I've done a lot of growing this past year. But since I'm asking you to answer the question; so will I. One thing I think I would have done differently is researching publishing companies before I signed a contract. I wasn't as interested in learning the business of writing as I should have been and it has caused some turmoil. I can't be mad though, because publishing Easier Said Than Done has been one of my biggest opportunities for learning in 2005. A couple of lessons: 1. most things can not be taken at face value - dig a little deeper and it may be a whole 'nother story and 2. the best of intentions does not always produce the best results.

Now what say you?

Gearing up for 2006 - Day Two

So, today is our day to brag. Don't hold back. I'm sure you'll be surprised like I was all that you were able to get done in 2005. Write it down, then give yourself a big hug! I'm proud of you!

2. What did I accomplish?

One accomplishment was completing my debut novel, "Easier Said Than Done" and getting it published. An even bigger accomplishment was keeping my sanity while doing it. I also completed my motivational speaking demo tape and have it ready to ship off in the new year. My film production was incorporated as well as my non-profit organization, "The Nikki Woods LeaderHership Academy" which will target girls between 12 and 18. And the script for "Easier Said Than Done" as well as my second novel, "Innocence Lost" are close to completion. Whew! It's been a roller coaster of a year and I'm sure I've missed some things. BUT that's just surface stuff. Most importantly, I developed a personal relationship with my Savior. I am talking more about just "getting church". I'm talking about a real relationship, a friendship and intimacy that I have never experienced before. I am also feeling more comfortable in my own skin. I accept my weaknesses as well as my strengths and have learned to capitalize on both. For someone who has struggled with confidence issues for most of their life - this is a HUGE accomplishment. I'm also very proud of my children and the things that they have accomplished as they made it to 2 and 4 years old and learned skills in leaps and bounds. Of couse, mommy takes a certain pride in that she had a hand in that.

Gearing up for 2006 - Day One

This doesn't have to take long, you may just want to take a minute and reflect on it. I would love for you to add your comments. See mine below.

1. What did I learn?

I think the most important thing I learned this year is that I can do anything and be successful at it when I really focus. As long as it's in keeping with God's will. Sometimes, I may be too scared, or too stressed or too lazy and just not done it - but I proved this year that I CAN do it. I also learned that I have a huge capacity to love that continues to grow. I don't tap into it nearly often enough but it is one of my goals for 2006. Tapping into Love brings forth a bunch of other great stuff like forgiveness, and courage. I also learned that I still have a lot to learn. And a long road of growth ahead of me. But now I know I can do it, from a position of love.

Gearing up for 2006!

As 2005 comes to an close, one thing that I regret is that I did not journal as much as in past years. For a good reason - I was too busy writing other things. I know that 2006 is going to be my breakthrough year. I have so much bubbling beneath the surface - good and bad - that needs to be brought forth. The good to be developed and the bad to be exorcised. So when I saw these questions I thought they would be a good start. AND I thought it would be fun for us to do together. (Yes, it's interactive!) We'll do them one at a time and really put forth our best effort. Can you tell I used to teach school? Read them, meditate on them. Class starts promptly at 8 tomorrow. And don't forget your number two pencil.


1. What did I learn?
2. What did I accomplish?
3. What would I have done differently? Why?
4. What did I complete or release?
5. What were the three most significant events of the last year?
6. What did I do right?
7. What were the fun things I did? The not-so-fun?
8. What were my biggest challenges? How did I overcome them?
9. For what I am grateful?
10. What do I want my theme to be for 2006?

Reclaiming My Femininity

"That's not quite rape." That was a listener's response to a call-in which a distraught listener related her emotional trauma that she was still suffering through ten years following a brutal assault at the hands of her fiancee.

"What did you just say?" I asked, incredulously.

"That's not quite rape." Seconds ticked by as the rage slowly worked itself to a boil, starting deep inside, burned its way up the back of my neck and had my eyes stinging with unshed tears. The caller went on to explain his rationale but I heard none of it; his words blocked by the screams of pain and hurt from my own "not quite rape" experience.

I didn't talk about it then and I still don't. It has been thirteen years for me but I've never quite gotten over it. And never will.

Like this caller most people still think of rape as a random attack, happening in dark corners at night or in empty parking lots. Although this is a tragic reality for some women, the majority of rapes occur when there is some degree of trust..... Yet, less then 5% of date rapes are ever reported.

I reported mine but to no avail. The system that set in place to assist the victims of crime only raped me again. So I shut my mouth and went on about living a life that I no longer felt belonged to me.

Instead of getting counseling, I worked in the trenches: talking to young women about dangers of sexual assault; whether it is at the hands on someone you know or someone you don't; advocating for tougher laws and more stringent sentencing for those who commit sexual assault and holding the hands of those who are dealing with the aftermath, struggling to pick up the pieces of their lives and their shattered femininity.

It was my own form of therapy and I thought it was working. But as I listened to the call again, I realized I still have a long way to go in my own healing process. Not on the surface - my physical scars have long since faded; but the emotional scars that are hidden deep within and are still puckered and pink.

I used to think the details weren't important. After al I gave the details - in excruciating detail to a group of people that only turned them against me. But now I've come to realize that the details are crucial. Because the signs of control and rage that I saw only in hindsight might prevent someone else from suffering through the ongoing aftermath of rape.

My body was violated but so was the very essence of what makes me a woman.

And the reclamation of that essence has been my life's journey; manifesting itself through depression, eating disorders, low self-esteem and relationship issues that plagued me through my twenties. Now in my thirties, I still jump at shadows, unexpected movements and loud male voices.

Even in the most tender moments with my husband, a similar movement brings back hellish memories.

My self-esteem as a woman is still splintered but it is no longer shattered and I've started taking back what it rightfully mine.

I'm starting to feel myself.

And love myself.

Validate and believe: Rape victims need reassurance that the assault was not their fault and that their feelings are normal. Although you feel you might have reacted differently, remember that each person's reactions are uniquely theirs.

Create a safe place: Both emotionally and physically, it is important for the survivor to feel in control again.

Expression: The feelings of a survivor of sexual assault can be very strong. Expressing these powerful feelings in a safe environment is an important part of the healing process.

Offer options-not advice: Survivors often struggle with important and complex decisions. You can be most helpful by helping her identify all of the options available and supporting her in her decision making.

Most importantly, believe in the possibility of healing.

Continue to be blessed.

No My First Name Ain't Baby

By Guest Blogger Shelia M. Goss



Never thought almost 20 years later, I would be singing lyrics to an old Janet Jackson song, "No, my first name ain't baby," but I am.

Why do men take it upon themselves to call women, "baby" during the course of a conversation?

Is it used as a term of endearment or does it go deeper than that?

Several years ago, a male friend, who we'll call "John," did something that surprised me. I observed him speak with several women over a span of a few hours. Each time they called, instead of saying their name, his initial greeting was "Hi Baby."

After the umpteenth call, I decided to ask him, "Why do you call those women Baby instead of using their names?"

His response surprised me. "It gives me time to either pick up on their voice or have them tell me who they are," he responded.

All I could say was, "Oh I see."

John taught me that evening to pay close attention to when a man uses the word "baby."

When I hear it now, I don't take the man too seriously. I find myself crinkling up whenever I hear it.

Does the word "baby" irritate you like it irritates me? Some men use the term so much that it becomes a habit. I've heard so many men use it out of habit that they probably aren't aware of how annoying it can be.

I tried to get over the annoyance when I met this new guy and he used it. Well that is, until I heard him use it when talking to a cashier, a mutual stranger, at the store. Afterwards, hearing him call me "baby" didn't hold that same warm fuzzy feeling it once did.

Men, please beware and don't use the word to every Sue, Jill, and Jane you come across. And women the next time a man says it to you, why not let him know that, "No my first name ain't baby, it's…"

It could be worse; they could be calling us another B word.



Shelia M Goss is a freelance writer and the Essence Bestselling author of My Invisible Husband, Roses are thorns, Violets are True and My Three Beaus.

Website: http://www.sheliagoss.com

Email: sheliagoss@aol.com

Blogs: http://myinvisiblehusband.blogspot.com

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Affirmations for Adversity

Whenever you are doing BIG things, challenges will arise. That is a fact. It comes with the territory. Luke 12:48 states that, "To Whom Much Is Given, Much Is Required. Biggie said, "More money, more problems." From the Bible to Hip-Hop, the message is the same. Adversity is the direct challenge to prosperity. And there's no way to get around it. You have to meet it head on. And that's what I'm doing - armed with my affirmations. I thought I'd share.

AFFIRMATIONS:

There are revelations and new growth. I accept. I am grateful.

I welcome the challenge that life is. Focus is set to uncover present blessings and see what's so that's good. Within are unborn possibilities of limitless potential.

I am grateful for new ideas, new strength, new vision that carry me into a future unlike the past.

I pay attention to thoughts of good, positive actions, feelings of assurance. All endings are refreshing beginnings. New good is on its way to me today. Gratitude abounds.

I am alert and awake in all challenges. Certainty of good outcomes guide my way today.

There are good things in store for me, gratitude opens amazing new perspectives of possibility for each moment.

There are ways beyond ways, there is good beyond good, there is power beyond power. I envision my self there, each day, gratefully.

Now there are doors where windows used to be and we are thankful.

Moving Day

Note: I started a new blog. Kinda had too. This one will be devoted to Cry Me A River, the sequel to Easier Said Than Done. I was writing Chapter Two and I realized that it was getting a bit racy. Uh huh, racy. Author Sylvia Hubbard will appreciate that. Her only critique for Easier Said Than Done was that my love songs weren't long enough and for lack of a better word - detailed enough. Well, that's not the case here. I'll provide the link each time I add a chapter and will continue posing thoughts, affirmations and other inspirational tidbits on this blog.

Thanks in advance for your cooperation! :)

I've Been Tagged!

Tayari Jones has "tagged" me! My assignment: to write fifteen interesting facts about my writing/reading life. I'm not sure I have that many but Imma give it a black girl try. PS. What is written on the blog, stays on the blog. You'll see what I mean in a minute.

Writing:

1. Most of my creativity comes while I am at work which can be sort of inconvenient since I am not getting paid to write!

2. I listen to reggae mainly to type.

3. I talk outloud to myself when I am trying to work through dialogue but only answer 50 percent of the time.

4. I run movie marathons for my kids when I'm under deadline. I thought about the NyQuil solution but didn't resort to it.

5. I am obsessive about cleaning my computer monitor when writing. Stray potato chip flake can often be mistaken for commas.

Reading:
6. I judge a book by it's cover. I've admitted it - which is the first step - and I am seeking help.

7. If per chance you are perusing my recent reading material and you happen to find a fingerprint it will be cheese flavored guaranteed. It's my favorite reading food.

8. Naked is better in most things that you do; especially reading.

9. A glass of wine will improve most anyone's writing skills.

10. Erotica still makes me blush; naked or otherwise.

If I disclose anymore, I just may have to kill you. Mission complete. Cydney Rax and Shelia Goss ... tag you're it.

Cry Me A River

Chapter One: Cry Me A River

Miracles In Every Moment

It's a stormy Monday morning in Chi-town and like many others, the weather affects my mood. So, I was in need of a little inspiration. It was such a blessing when this motivational email came across my inbox. My good friend, author JL King always tells me, "Don't close your eyes, you might miss a miracle" so I post this today with my eyes wide open.

Miracles in every moment
+++++++++++++++++++

There are miracles in every moment if you'll just take the
time to see them. There is value in every circumstance if
you'll simply make the effort to appreciate it.

Even on the most ordinary and tedious days there are
magnificent and extraordinary treasures to be lived. They
are yours when you open your mind and your heart to the
possibilities.

There is no need to long for some distant bright day on
which everything will be perfect. For you can make this very
day as bright and shining and fulfilling as you choose.

Open your eyes and realize what a miracle it is that you
know you are here. Choose in this very moment to make the
most of your awesome good fortune.

The wind blows, the sun rises, the snow falls and the ocean
relentlessly pounds the shore. Life rolls on with fresh new
possibilities at every turn.

There are miracles in every moment. What a privilege and joy
it is to be a part of life.

Ralph Marston

Confessions

Confessions

I receive a lot of emails but this one touched me so much I wanted to share. I posted her email to me and the I added my response:

I am feeling sorry for myself. I don't have a job for the first time since I was 14. I have many unfinished could be careers, disguised as hobbies for now. The only truly consist thing in my life is my immediate family. I don't keep in touch with my relatives as much as I'd hope to as an adult and which I should have done as a child (they live in South America). I keep in worse touch with people not related to me, especially if there is no regular mandatory event that brings us together.

I will be 26 this New Years Eve.

I had planned to accomplish plenty, much more than I have actually done or even started. I miss every personal deadline I ever made for myself. Some would say that's depression, but I am still generally pleasant to be around and have no qualms about going out when invited and still find a way to have a good time. I am a true all around athlete that can't get motivated to get outside and have no interest in exercising without sports, but can't find teams because for that you have to get out of the house. I have always enjoyed singing and song writing and did not share it with anybody until maybe my upper teens or beyond, and then only with a few people at a time. My parents still haven't heard any of my music.

I think cliches are cliches for a reason. They should be studied. There should be college courses dedicated to them. I should make a short film about cliches, and add that on my list of things I will never finish.

I want to be a singer/song/writer/performer

a television personality

an actress

a director/screenwriter/producer

a novelist/publisher

in that order and throughout my life.

I don't know where to begin in my quest to accomplish these goals and see no hope in the ideas without the funds and/or connections to initiate/complete them.

I feel like others have the one up on me and/or nothing to loose.

I will definitely have regrets in my old age about the things I didn't do.

I definitely need help, the mentor type, the connection type, the money type. I need equipment, resources. I need intervention.

Like so many others, I need to get on the ball. Most peoples aspirations, that I know of, are only half as difficult/unattainable as mine and seeing that they do not get motivated to do them gives me little hope.

I am hopeless and feel lonely and there is nothing that anyone around me, or that I know, can do to cure me or help me in my quest.

Will I give up? Should I give up?

Will I purposely loose everything so that I have nothing to loose? Then will I finally ask strangers for help, tell them my story. See if someone with the resources can/will care?

Knowing that my problems are common bears no relief.

My current dilemma is this. Since the company layoff this November, I have been involuntarily given the opportunity to make a life changing choice.

Do I at this point take a dinky job that pays half was I was making, something close to home, to allow the time to pursue the first of my endeavors. Risk it? Be the starving artist?

Do I work hard everyday to find a career in my current field to keep climbing the corporate ladder, side with my studies. "Safe route?" The route that doesn't allow for much of anything else.

I have always been good at both the sciences and the arts and to be safe I went with the analytical side. Denied my creativity the ability to grow, to learn techniques/style/history.

The sciences have fallen short. I do not use even half of what I learned in college in my

day-to-day work life. I am unsatisfied with my career. I do not have the ability/knowledge to become an Einstein, I am just better than average and would most likely flourish if I decided it so. Mostly due to my work ethic.

But I do, in my opinion, have the ability to make a fantastic career in the arts.

I don't want to sound ungrateful, I have a beautiful life that I appreciate. But this choice has been haunting me since I can remember. I have never been a big risk taker and have geared my life towards self-reliance. I don't generally ask for help nor do I expect it or accept it. This is very hard for me.

To reiterate, I am self pitying.

I do not know why I chose to write this to you Nikki. I just did. If you are interested in listening to a small sample of my music, please reply with an address to send a CD. Regardless, please reply with any advice you may have for me.

Thank you in advance for your consideration.


My response:

Be glad you didn't send me a phone number because I just might have called and cussed you out!

Seriously.

First of all I am glad you emailed me. God always places people in our lives and in our paths at EXACTLY the right time. So this is not a coincidental thing.

Second of all, you are beautiful. Not just on the surface, but the goodness of your soul shines through your eyes.

So you wanna know what I think?

In short, my advice is to find your passion and pursue it relentlessly. Easier said than done? Yes but it IS doable. I know it can be done because I did it.

I recognize depression, self pity and lack of motivation because I deal with them daily. But I am now able to push past them and achieve my dreams because I have found my passion. You can do it to. And I will help.

Put the money, connections and mentoring aside. All of that will come once you are on your designated path. I am a radio and television personality, motivational speaker, published author and soon to be filmmaker. Why? Because I am finally doing what I am supposed to be doing. I am still struggling with the financial end of things because all of what I am trying to do takes a lot of money and regardless of my dreams, I still have very real bills that need to be paid and very real children that have to be fed. But I'm still doing it and lo and behold, the money always shows up on time. God is an exceedingly abundant God.

I used to be a fifth grade teacher. I was good at it but it was not my passion. And it was killing me. So I took the leap of faith and stepped firmly onto my designated path. The road has not been easy - and never will be - but the passion that I have for what I am doing allows me to embrace and overcome the struggles.

You have to find your passion. The rest will fall into place.

So sit down, and write down what you want most in life. Meditate on it and feel the joy it brings and then we will come up with a plan of action to get you there.

I dare you to be successful. Gonna take me up on the challenge?

Love,
NW

So what say you? Any advice for her? Post it and I will pass it on!

God Bless all of those who are on the path and those still looking for the path. We are walking this journey together.

Cry Me A River

Prologue: Cry Me A River

The Official Jump Off

A Poetic Prelude: http://shadowdancing.blogspot.com/

Flippin' the Script

Easier Said Than Done - Cover

OK, after much thought and even more speculation I will be taking the plunge. Tommorrow. No, I'm not going to cut my hair into a sporty bald fade. I won't be picking up and dragging my babies to Japan just because I've discovered I like - no love - Sushi. And I'm certainly not going to pull a Sheryl Swoops move and I wouldn't be talking about her infamous cross-over dribble move or would I? Not that there's anything wrong with that.

None of the above ...

What I'm talking about is answering the question, "What the hell is up withcha girl Essence?"

Now for those of you that are not familiar with Essence, she was the sexy, off-the-chain, backstabbing, manstealing friend of Kingston - the protagonist in my debut novel, Easier Said Than Done. I won't take time to delve into the story, but if you haven't picked up a copy of ESTD than I encourage you to do so. Yes, Now would be a good time. Either visit me on line at www.nikkiwoods.com or you can buy it via www.amazon.com. Pick it up today because I will begin posting her story tomorrow and trust me, it's going to be HOT! So go ahead, purchase Easier Said Than Done. I'll wait.

Play pleasant music and read disclaimer now: (The sex scenes will be a little EXPLICIT. Ok, ALOT explicit! I'm gonna be working out some things. (insert salacious grin)

Back already? Order the book? (enter assumption that you answered with an affirmative.) Good.

So yes, while I will continue to add inspiration to my blog, I will also be throwing chapters fromt the sequel to Easier Said Than Done which is told from Essence's point of view and may be inspirational in another way.

Ummmm, did I mention at least twice that you should buy - Easier Said Than Done today? And I gave you the website so you can order it? I did? (wait patiently until dramatic pause ends.) Ok. Then my job here is done.

WHAT ARE YOU HOPING FOR?

On a dreary, rainy day in Chicago, I along with 7 co-workers boarded an early morning flight headed to Memphis, Tennessee. I was excited about visiting the Lorraine Motel where Martin Luther King, Jr. was shot and killed - especially in wake of Rosa Park's recent death. I viewed it as visiting a man and his dream and thought it would be the inspiring moment I so desperately needed.

But that was not the intended purpose of the trip. Business comes before pleasure and Beale Street, so first we were scheduled to tour St. Jude Children's Research Hospital in preparation for a radiothon on November 17th. Little did I know I was about to be introduced to another man and his dream.

More than 50 years ago, Danny Thomas, then a struggling young entertainer with $7 in his pocket, knelt in a Detroit church before a statue of St. Jude Thaddeus, the patron saint of hopeless causes. Thomas asked the saint to “show me my way in life.”

His prayer was answered, and soon he moved his family to Chicago to pursue career offers. A few years later, at another turning point in his life, Thomas again prayed to St. Jude and pledged to someday build a shrine to the saint.

Throughout the next years, Thomas’ career prospered through films and television, and he became a nationally known entertainer. He remembered his pledge to build a shrine to St. Jude. And he did. Begging and borrowing money from people like Elvis Presley and Sammy Davis, Jr. of the Rat Pack fame to build the initial facility.

From the onset, St. Jude has been unlike any other pediatric treatment and research facility anywhere. It was the first integrated hospital in Memphis. And that in itself says a lot when you consider it was operating in the town where King was killed.

Since then discoveries made there have completely changed how the world treats children with cancer and other catastrophic diseases. Some of today's most gifted researchers are able to do more science, more quickly. Doctors across the world send their toughest cases and most vulnerable patients to St. Jude's because they know miracles happen there every day. It is America's 3rd-largest health-care charity, with a model that keeps the costs down and the funds flowing, so the science never stops. And neither do the miracles. The biggest one being that not one family or patient ever receives a bill for any of the services they receive at St. Jude. Can you imagaine a place where no one pays for treatment beyond what is covered by insurance, and those without insurance are never asked to fork over a cent.

We got a chance to talk to a family and the mother told me that as soon as she stepped on the grounds of St. Jude she could feel the annointing. I had to agree. Especially after I had heard her story. Her name is Cynthia and she has a 9 year-old daughter, Amari, that was diagnosed with Sickle Cell and subsequently cured through a bone marrow transplant. (Raise your hand if you didn't know there was a cure for Sickle Cell. That's a different blog but yet another example of the miracles that St. Jude is responsible for.) Unfortunately during the transplant, Amarie contracted another potentially fatal disease that doctors in her hometown of New Orleans were having trouble treating. Which brings me to another point - did I fail to mention all of this was going on during the devastation of Hurricane Katrina? When the hospital ran out of running water, they called St. Jude who immediately sent a jet to pick up Cynthia, Amari and her 3 year-old brother. Since coming to St. Jude, Amari has gained 12 pounds and is back to doing some of the things, like playing outside, that she hasn't been able to do since long before the transplant.

According to the rules and regulations of the facility, you're not supposed to hug the children because of IV's and bandages or kiss them because of germs. They ask you to bend to their level and address them by name so they don't feel as if they are being studied like an experiment in a hospital lab. They also don't want you to tell the children that you'll see them later or that you hope they get better soon because there is the possiblity that neither of those things will happen. Of course as a mother I wanted to do all of the above. You weren't even supposed to ask the children how they were feeling. Instead the tour guide told me that the doctors, nurses and other caretakers would ask the children, "What are you hoping for today?" They even had a mural designed with that question and some of the responses from the children. The answers ran the gamut from, "experiencing less pain" to "eating more jello". Little requests that make a big difference to a child that is fighting daily just to survive.

So when I asked Amari what she was hoping for, and she responded, "to grow up to be as pretty as you", I was humbled and my world realigned itself instantly. I quickly said a little prayer, thanking God for the health of my children and found myself hoping with all my heart that Amari simply gets the chance just to grow up (she's already more beautiful than I could ever hope to be). The world simply would not be as bright a place without her light shining in it. I know that with just one smile from Amari, my life was changed in an instant.

And I say to you today, "What you're hoping for?"

GOD works ........

Sometimes you need a nudge in the right direction, no matter how small. Shaye was the elbow of God's arm that jabbed me sharply in my side this morning. She needed my help in starting an affirmation that was to be presented at a celebration of womanhood ..... tonight. Well, I needed an affirmation because quite frankly it was already starting to be one of dem days and has been for about the past 68 (give or take a few) of 'em. I won't even waste the time trying to romanticize it by coming up with some poetic term. I've been in a flat out funk.

So when I started writing, the words flowed and with Shaye's brilliant collaboration, this is what we came up with. And with the first read through I knew, that no matter where I am or where I was ... at this moment .... in this moment .... being there is perfectly ok.

Now inhale (as deeply as the circumstances dictate) and let's say our affirmation together ............

AT THIS MOMENT
By Nikki Woods & Sharon Gray

Today, I will remember that everything is temporary.

I declare calm in my life and reclaim my inner peace.

I am free to be me.

I shall be true to myself and create new visions just for me.

I honor the friends in my life.

I forgive myself and others.

Today, I release all fear, anger, and doubt.

I willingly release the past.

It's not the destination, ultimately it is the journey.

And I am enjoying my journey through life. I smile.

Today I will embody my vision.

Today, I will listen, hear and obey my inner voice, resisting all suspects.

I celebrate life and all its goodness.

I give thanks for being allowed to see another sunset.

I shall hold on because a change is coming. I choose to transform my life.

I choose positive thoughts.

I have the power to make changes in my life.

I release and let go.

At this moment.

Now ....... Exhale ................ Damn, that felt good.

A Poetic Interlude to Easier Said Than Done

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The crisp, ripe smell of destiny is aglow, vividly.

Awaiting accomodation from my smile.

So, my tender lips, ever so gently embraces and ignites such flames of promise.

I shall heal.

The frostbitten and brittle days of yesteryears rested heavily on my soul
......a burdened milestone smoothed from bouts of blue anguish.

I shall release.

Taking hold of the future without fear, using all of my senses to embrace what
lies ahead.

The future represents my passion awakened from the soul of my undying spirit.

Reflection of my bittersweet past brings the realization that time has released
me from the gaping wounds of my blood and tear soaked journey.

Inspite of and despite all ...... I've discovered my own path on my own and for
my own .....finding my destiny was Easier Said Than Done.

Easier Said Than Done.

Dedicated to my sister, mother and all of the beautiful and selfless women who are doing it and doing it well ..... regardless!

Bouncin' from Bermuda

Beautiful Bermuda

Beautiful Bermuda. With all that has been going on with Hurricane Katrina, most of my attention has been focused on collecting supplies and doing what I can to try and aid the survivors of such a devastating event. But I would be remiss if I didn't send some love to an island that opened it's hospitable arms and welcomed me like the prodigal child returning home.

I visited the island from September 1st to September 4th for my first booksigning and a live radio broadcast.

Love to True Reflections Bookstore located in a quaint walkdown in parish of Hamilton surrounded by Bistros and quiet places to sit and reflect. Also only a stone's throw away from a HUGE Louis Vuitton store. Can't be mad at that. Valerie Young and Michelle really took care of a sistah and I will forever be grateful.

Also big holla's going out to the staff of the Hott 1075 Radio Station who let me take over the midday radio waves and made a little black girl from Chicago feel like a star. Bootise, Nefertari, Isadore, Brittney and Miss Thang .... please let me return the favor when you come to my city.

For those that have never been, I recommend running your toes through the pink sand and splashing in the blue waters. Don't leave without taking a tour and learning some of the rich history. Hangout at the Swizzle Inn where most who patronize swagger out. Eat a fish sandwich and visit the coves. BUT WHATEVER YOU DO, don't think you can out drink a Bermudian, 'cause baby .... on that little island they know how to knock 'em back. And I love that about them. On an island that's extrodinary, lives a people that outshines it by miles.

Lest we forget .................

On Sept. 11, 2001, in the worst single act of terrorism committed on U.S. soil, nearly 3,000 people died when two hijacked jetliners crashed into New York's World Trade Center, causing the twin towers to fall, a commandeered jetliner smashed into the Pentagon and a fourth hijacked plane crashed in western Pennsylvania.

The fearless leaders of our country took time out of their busy schedules to observe a moment of silence. But I wonder what they are really thinking? Is President Bush thinking how he can tell his mother to shut up 'cause she's been talking crazy lately? Is Dick Cheney counting the BILLIONS of dollars that his company Haluburton is about to rake in from cleaning up New Orleans? I mean really, they couldn't find some unemployed person who is now looking for a way to feed their family to do that and pay them that money? Is Laura Bush trying to figure out how far up Kanye West's butt she can stick her sensible heels for talking bad about her man on national tv? And does Dick Cheney's wife think at all?

Well, God Bless America.

This is Life

Hurricane Katrina

This is Life
_______________________________________________________________________________
By Shaye



Bitter wind slaps indiscriminately against my forgotten, lucid windows while my melancholy tears, inflamed with tenderness, cascade wearily and stain my velvet journal of yesteryear a deep hue of azure.

This is alone.

Hesitation peeks in momentarily from the sleek corner of my worn eyes—swollen and drained yet still lovely, in an odd sense. I wince. Another untruth, another abandonment, another cease of power. I surrender my all for some sanity..any solace.

This is afraid.

Solitude envelops my nakedness-refined in the serene seclusion. All denigrated are those sorrows, weeps and nightly rhythmic whimpers. The stale warmth of the diminutive crawl space is my Sabbath. I cry for me. You. Us.

This is without Love.

Continued prayers ......

Hurricane Katrina and why the time is now ........

Katrina's Destruction

Today WGCI's own Crazy Howard Mcgee and his morning show(of which I am a proud member)did something that is practically unheard of. The number one radio station in Chicago ...... the powerhouse station that prides itself on playing the hits stopped the music and devoted the entire morning show to talk to listeners in Chicago that had connections to people in the areas that were affected by Hurricane Katrina. Some grew up in the small towns of Mississippi or cruised down Canal Street in New Orleans. Others hadn't talked to family members or friends and couldn't get in touch because of the power outage and downed phone lines. One in particular - Nate - was on the phone with his fiancee and three children when the water started to seep then gush into their home. This was Monday. The line went dead as he begged them to press towels under the door to stop the flow of water. He hasn't talked to them since. It broke my heart.

Tomorrow I board a plane headed for the beautiful island of Bermuda. I will be there for to broadcast live in celebration of Crazy Howard's 10th anniversary on WGCI. I will be there to smile and sign books at my first official booksigning. I thought I would be there to relax and have some much needed downtime. But now I find that I am leaving with a heavy heart. My thoughts and prayers will be here with the thousands that so easily could have been me. I am not sure how those who have been dealt such devestation can ever rest easy again. I'm not sure how any of us can.

My mother faced such turmoil just this past winter as she spent time with her mother in Jamaica. We couldn't reach her for two days but she made it home to her husband, two children and 6 grandchildren. Not like the mother who begged her husband to just let her go so he could save her children. He doesn't know if she made it or not.

In light of the tragedy a co-worker has vowed to mend a relationship with his estranged father of more than 30 years who just happens to have made it safely out of New Orleans. And others have just vowed to mend. Sometimes it takes destruction of this magnitude to make it happen.

So when I read an email sent by a fellow member of an online book club it gave me pause. It touched my heart and I asked her if I could publish it on my blog. It is as follows:

Hey all,

As I sit here thinking about all that has happened to our world in the past few months, with the latest being the devastation of Hurricane Katrina, my heart is heavy and I am in a reflective mood.

I just want to put something on your minds and in your hearts. Do you have someone you have fallen out with? Is there someone you haven't talked to in a long time? If so, now is the time to fix it. Don't let another day pass with angry words left between you. Even though whatever it was may have seemed serious at the time, in the whole scope of things, it's really very minor. What's most important is love. You never know if you will get a chance to fix that wounded relationship. Hug your family and tell them you love them, because as the Bible tells us, tomorrow is not promised.

And most importantly, and I apologize if this offends anyone, but if you don't have a right relationship with God, now is the time to fix that also. I believe in Him, and I believe in His power. I also believe that one day this world is going to end and that we will all have to stand before the judgement seat. And I know that I want to be one of the ones who makes it into heaven.

Again, I apologize if this offends anyone, but this was heavy on my heart (for personal reasons also) and I couldn't go another minute without sharing it.

If you are able, please do what you can to help the hurricane victims, especially those in New Orleans who have lost everything. Maybe we can start a Literary Relief Fund? I don't know how we would go about that though? Anyone have any thoughts?

Much love,

Renee Williams
Stuff Happens! Event Planning
For All Your Literary, Personal and Business Events
936-650-3952
www.stuffhappensep.com
stuffhappensep@yahoo.com


Thank you Renee and much love to you all.

UPCOMING EVENTS

Add me to your calendar!

HOTT 1075 FM Radio Sept 2,2005 - BERMUDA

The book signing location: HOTT 1075 FM Radio 49 Union Square Mall, Hamilton HM12 Website: www.hott1075.bm And will be held in conjunction with: True Reflections Book Store 53 Reid St. Hamilton HM12 Right on the corner of Parliament and Reid streets, this shop has Bermuda's largest collection of books, puzzles and other items related to black Bermudian, African and Caribbean history. Afro-centered greeting cards, posters and lithographs are also available. True Reflections celebrates ethnic culture and art. Jewelry from the Ivory Coast, Kente cloth accessories and African print shirts are popular with visitors and locals. Various striking fabrics are available by the yard. For Travel Arrangements: please visit:http://www.advantage-intl.com/ "Easier Said Than Done is a stellar debut novel written with style and wit. Woods makes a big splash with a wonderful plot set in sexy Jamaica with characters that feel like folks we know and care about. Get a copy--no, get two... one for you and one for a friend." -Yolanda Joe, Best Selling Author, My Fine Lady

ISBN: 0-9755092-6-8 Borders Books Nationwide Distribution: Baker & Taylor & Amazon.com www.EbonyEnergyPublishing.com Publisher's Email: Books@EbonyEnergy.com Category: African-American Literature Price: $14.95 (US) Trade Paperback, Page Count: 305

www.nikkiwoods.com for more information!

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FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
August 26, 2005

CONTACT:
Vania Hudson
Simply Elegant Event Planning LLC
708-261-8183
vania@simplyeleganteventplanning.com
www.simplyeleganteventplanning.com


Chicago, IL (BlackNews.com) - Simply Elegant Event Planning (SEEP), in conjunction with the Chicago School of Massage Therapy, will hold its annual Women's Day Celebration at the Tinley Park Holiday Inn Convention Center on Saturday, September 10th from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. Nikki Woods, WGCI Radio personality and author, is hostess for this event.

Throughout the day complimentary massages await attendees along with workshops that stress the importance of good nutrition and fitness, financial empowerment, and tips on how to relax and cope with hectic daily living.

Pastor Gale Colon, Living Waters Church Ministries is the motivational speaker with entertainment by Chicago gospel groups The Heavenly King Jr.'s and The Douglas Singers as well as an Authors Forum featuring Lisa Altalida, Melissa Young-Freeman, Paula Stinson, and Nikki Woods each speaking on strategic dating pointers, life-changing experiences, and erotic poetry.

Other keynote speakers include Sean Armstead, Phenomenal Fitness on healthy eating and exercise; Gia Buyers, masseuse and tai-chi expert; and Melanie White, Harmless as Doves, self-defense pro.

There are also exhibitors representing Chicago-land small businesses who will showcase products on beauty, wellness, spirituality, and financial planning.

Organizations responsible for ensuring the day is filled with fantastic giveaways include The Fine Arts Sponsor, Kreations Arts & Imports, Angel Greetings, representatives from Avon, Mary Kay Cosmetics, and Party-Lite Candles, Flowers Unlimited, and MyPoints.com.

Chestnut Wine Bar & Grill, the Official Take It Easy Sponsor, will end the days events by giving a Wine Tasting Cocktail Party for 10 to one lucky attendee. Tickets are available by visiting www.simplyeleganteventplanning.com or www.ticketweb.com

A portion of the proceeds from this event will be donated to the Chicago School for Massage Therapy for equipment and other materials.


About Simply Elegant Event Planning, LLC
Simply Elegant Event Planning (SEEP), a full-service event planning company, provides the highest level of the Ideal Client Services Experience (ICSE). Host to its annual Women's Day Celebration and Pageant Showcases, SEEP specializes in corporate meetings, weddings, theme parties, and other private affairs. Learn more about Simply Elegant Event Planning at www.simplyeleganteventplanning.com

Dorrie Wheeler has Tha Biz!

It's a different twist for me to be on the opposite end of questions. Normally, I am the one asking, probing, attempting to extract information that may or may not want to be given.

This interview was a pleasure, not only because I love any opportunity to promote my book but also because I know the interviewer - know her in the way that only the internet can make possible. She sounded as nice on the phone as she did in her emails. Can't wait to meet you in person, Dorrie. Thanks for the good look.

Oh, and check out the other interviews. A sistah can't be mad at seeing her picture sitting next to Yolanda Adams, Tamara Gregory, Ray J, and Jodley Watley. Not bad company to be in.

Hit the link: http://www.thabiz.com/

CONFESSIONS OF THE FORCEFULLY PHOTOGENIC

Promo Pic

There are not many things that I dread in life. But if asked in an interview to pick one thing that I just hate, I would undoubtedly reply, "taking pictures." Impromptu pictures, staged pictures, family pictures: I hate them all. But I especially hate taking PROMO PICTURES. The last promotional picture I took for the radio station was 2 1/2 years ago. I was 9 months pregnant with my last child and you can tell. My hair looked good though, nice and healthy - thanks to the hormones but I cried for days after it was first posted on the website. That was thanks to the hormones as well. I called it post-picture depression.

Two hair cuts, 25 "pregnancy" pounds and one bouncing baby later, that time rolled around again. I had been planning to take pictures for months in order to promote the new books. I definately was dragging my feet but then the station decided the website needed a new look as well and the picture taking schedule shifted in overdrive. I was given 2 days. (Yes, Ladies, 2 days. Ya'll know this process takes a lot longer than 2 days.) I had just gotten back from a trip to Jamaica so I was sporting tan lines, a sunburned nose and braided hair. So in two days, I had to figure out how to get my groove back with wardrobe, hair options, etc. etc. etc. It also meant that I had two days to mentally prepare for the actual process. Now it's not like I am opposed to people touching me but to sit for hours of hair and make-up and wardrobe adjustment, brushing here and lifing there - to me is akin to Chinese water torture. Now here comes the disclaimer: I had the best from hair to makeup to photographer. Thanks Jessie, Debbie and Rodney respectively. But by the time the last layer of mascara had been applied, the last strand of hair sprayed motionless, and my breasts adjusted - they made me remove my bra to prevent unnecessary lines - I was ready to scream.

Did I tell you that I hate taking pictures? I don't want to forget that part.

So I posed, smiled then posed again and smiled some more. I was instructed to pout, lean, swivel and a myriad of other things before he declared us done.

Done was not even the word for what I was.

But when I saw the final product it switched from done to impressed .... I didn't look half bad. I actually looked like I was enjoying myself. And there was more than one good picture. That's a first.

So I have now switched from the FORCEFULLY PHOTOGENIC to the PHOTOGENIC FOX. And you know what? I like it!

I present to you (please insert dramatic music) ...... THE PROMO PICTURE ......

PS. And yes, I want to know what you think. I've already had a few people tell me that they like the old one better (see sidebar). Phooey on them ...... (smile)

To Blog ..... or not to blog!

"What the heck is a blog?" That's the question my father posed to me when I casually asked him to check out my latest project.

He's used to my "projects" (God bless him) but most of the time doesn't understand them and never hesitates to question. Of course, keep in mind this is the same man that HAS NEVER had call waiting on his home phone. I attempted to explain but still didn't fully understand the new phenomenon my self. Don't think my stuttering followed by a blank stare boosted his confidence any. But because he loves me, he checked it out .......

And I checked out some things as well ..... like what a blog actually is.

Technically the word blog is the abbreviation for "WEB LOG". As one blog provider explains: A blog gives you your own voice on the web. It's a place to collect and share things that you find interesting— whether it's your political commentary, a personal diary, or links to web sites you want to remember. Many people use a blog just to organize their own thoughts, while others command influential, worldwide audiences of thousands. Professional and amateur journalists use blogs to publish breaking news, while personal journalers reveal inner thoughts. Whatever you have to say, Blogger can help you say it.

Ain't that the truth? When I started my blog, my thirst to discover other bloggers that provided fresh and innovative thoughts, humour or knowledge became unquenchable, most written in clever prose. Now I'm hooked and surf daily, reading the most intimate thoughts of strangers ..... and some friends. Yes, friends. It's amazing the number of "undercover" bloggers that I have discovered. Y'all coulda hipped a sister a little quicker. And now that I belong to the club, I am here to tell you that "It's ok." Don't be afraid to stand up and be counted!

I think the quote by Isabel Colegatesums it up, "It is not a bad idea to get in the habit of writing down one's thoughts. It saves one having to bother anyone else with them."

That's the reason I write, journal and now blog.

With blogs, you can be bothered at your own risk ......

If you'd like to find out more about about blogs. Log on to www.apoo.com.

Oh, yeah ...... I'm OFFICIAL!

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Date Reviewed: July 26, 2005

EASIER SAID THAN DONE by Nikki Woods
Ebony Energy Publishing, September 2005
305 Pages, Paperback, $14.95
ISBN: 0975509268
Genre: Fiction

RAW Rating: 4

Yep, it's easier said than done...

Kingston Phillips is an entertainment executive based in Chicago who has carved her way into the industry, nabbing one of the top rappers for her new division and garnering the respect of her boss. All is lining up well for Kingston, and she has two good friends who share in her happiness and a kinda-sorta boyfriend in the wings. Or so it seems. Just as things start running smoothly, her grandmother dies, and she must return to Jamaica for the funeral. In addition, she finds out some things about her boyfriend that make her realize she's better off without him.

While in Jamaica, memories overtake Kingston as she deals with the death and funeral arrangements, her situation back home, and the decisions she has to make regarding her future. She encounters family drama with those who should be closest to her and is forced to relive events of the past, including tragedy and heartache. Kingston also finds out that her grandmother has named her the executor of her estate. This causes more stress between the family members, and Kingston is left to decide how she will proceed with her sanity intact. Kingston has much soul-searching to do as she later finds out her grandmother not only made her executor of her estate, but with the request that Kingston return to Jamaica and live in the house so she can oversee the estate fund. Added to the chaos is the fact that her ex-boyfriend lives in town, and he's trying to pick up where they left off in their relationship. Kingston must decide what she will do professionally, personally, and romantically, but it is all easier said than done.

Though the novel is fiction, it touches on many aspects of other genres such as romance, a bit of suspense, and a bit of drama found in relationship-type novels. There is something for everyone. The writing isn't overly complicated, the characters are well-structured, and portions of the book were so moving, I found myself feeling as if I were part of the cast and actually going through the ups and downs featured in the book. Nikki Woods molds a realistic and engaging story about the importance of family, friends, and community. She showcases the power to heal from past pains in order to move towards the future. It is a highly recommended read, especially for those with close ties to their family or those who long to have them.

Reviewed by Tee C. Royal of The RAWSISTAZâ„¢ Reviewers
http://www.rawsistaz.com

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Tee C. Royal is a freelance reader, reviewer, and proofreader residing in the suburbs of Atlanta.

Step into the Literary Cafe with L.A. Banks

The Forbidden by L.A. Banks

Internationally recognized author of over 20 novels and novellas, L.A. Banks, releases – THE FORBIDDEN -- her fifth book in The Vampire Huntress Legends Series, published by St. Martin’s Press, NYC.

Banks, a unique renaissance woman who built her stellar career out of the ashes of a personal tragedy, has won the hearts and minds of fans in the US, as well as readers in Canada, Japan, Australia, The Netherlands, London, Scotland, and Russia—where the first book in the series, Minion, just sold for translation into that foreign language.

Her works, which have been consistently rooted in positive messages read by thousands, have expanded to include another first in African American fiction--namely, a Vampire Huntress Legend. From her socially relevant themes in women's fiction, Ms. Banks went even further to develop an urban legend aimed at youth, with heavy social messages within her female empowered Vampire Huntress Legend series (see more details enclosed.) Using the insidious nature of the music industry, gansta rap, and the lore of drug/street life as a backdrop for demonic activity, Ms. Banks created a successful, nine book urban legend whereby a multicultural family fights against the odds of evil and wins! Woven throughout the tale are historical facts, economics, global politics, and science.

>>So it was right after work - left a little early in anticipation - and I was at home, logged on and no L.A Banks. I had sent a friendly email reminder. She responsed, just as friendly. Looked at my buddy list. No L.A. So I called and she was right there, bubbly and waiting on me! It boiled down to technical difficulitles that were quickly straightened out. I settled back in the couch with my laptop propped on my knees, took a sip of my diet Sunkist orange pop and started typing. I invited L.A. into the literary cafe ...... <<

"L.A Banks" [11:15 A.M.]: Hey, lady!

"NikkiWoods" [11:15 A.M.]: OK! We have contact!

"L.A Banks" [11:16 A.M.]: YO!

"NikkiWoods" [11:16 A.M.]: LOL! You are too funny.

"L.A Banks" [11:16 A.M.]: LOL

"NikkiWoods" [11:16 A.M.]: So--just so you know--we are now going on the record!

"L.A Banks" [11:16 A.M.]: COOL!

"NikkiWoods" [11:16 A.M.]: So why don't we start by you telling me how you first got
started with your writing.

"L.A Banks" [11:18 A.M.]: Oh, my goodness... that's a LONG story--but suffice to say that, Divine Intervention got me started. My daughter, who was six months old at the time, pulled an iron down on herself at a day care lady's home. My day job had been a sales exec for a major Fortune 100 high tech firm, and I was traveling 60% of the time. When this happened, I was laid off, came home to help her recover through 17 surgeries for the burns, whereby she lost 3 fingers... it was a nightmare. Then, I was also going through a divorce. Everything was coming down on me at once--no money, no job, hurt child, and a short story contest for Essence Mag came in the door. Ten pages for $2,500. I was on it!
... 3 days later I had 75 pages. I gave it to girlfriends to help me edit it down so I could submit it. They said, "No, chile! We HAVE to find out what's gonna happen to Victor and Liza!" LOL! I gave up the contest idea and kept writing, because it was keeping me sane, whew! No medical and dental meant forget therapy... this was cheap therapy, ha ha ha. When I was done, they said I had a book, I was like, "Yeah right, I need a job with flex hours." They believed in me when I didn't believe in myself and started mailing out the manuscript to all of creation--and I started getting rejection letters in from everywhere... but one editor bit--BIG SMILE. She called with a two book deal from Arabesque, and the rest is history!

"NikkiWoods" [11:23 A.M.]: Now here we are 20 books later.

"L.A Banks" [11:23 A.M.]: Yes... hard to believe, but true--which is why I have Divine Intervention in every book I do :)

"NikkiWoods" [11:24 A.M.]: You write under three different pseudonyms. Is it hard to keep the personas straight?

"L.A Banks" [11:25 A.M.]: YES! LOL! But it was necessary because folks who like romance don't necessarily want to read about more gritty stuff, and folks who read crime thrillers aren't always into fantasy, and the folks who read fantasy want what they want--so it's a necessary thing.

"NikkiWoods" [11:25 A.M.]: Which one do you prefer--if that is even a fair question? ......

"L.A Banks" [11:27 A.M.]: Oh, it's a very fair question. I LOVE the Vampire Huntress Legend series the best (shush, don't tell my publishers, LOL)... only because I can do ALL genres in one. Romance, action-adventure, crime stuff, plus I can create universes within universes within that tale, and bring in all the old prayer warrior basics that I was raised with, cultural identifiers, etc. It's the whole thing in one genre!

"NikkiWoods" [11:27 A.M.]: Have you been interested in Vampires all your life? Your books are VERY detailed .... I can only imagine the time the research took.

"L.A Banks" [11:29 A.M.]: NO, LOL! Sure, as a kid, I'd watch "Creature Double Feature" or "Dark Shadows" (mess like that), but as an "interest" no. Actually, the idea came from watching the nightly news... people were and are preying on each other--literally sucking the life blood out of communities--which is what made me go, "AH HA!" The detail and research is just my crazy way that I had to really get in-depth, and I did it for all my books really, because I want the characters and situations to literally walk off the page. If it's a love scene, I want you to smell it, taste it, feel it, hear it, LOL.. if I'm trying to scare you, I want you to jump when your phone rings. Research is the foundation.

"NikkiWoods" [11:31 A.M.]: I know when I first picked up your book, I immediately put it down because I tend to stray away from the darker side of things, but in The Vampire Huntress Legends Series you really base everything on very positive messages. So, I certainly commend you for that.

"L.A Banks" [11:32 A.M.]: Thanks, Nikki... that's the general preconception when folks pick up the books--but my goal is to show how The Light conquers the darkness.

"NikkiWoods" [11:32 A.M.]: You have just released the fifth book in the series ... tell us a little bit about "The Forbidden".

"L.A Banks" [11:33 A.M.]: Yes... “The Forbidden”, but let me say that, it is really an epic love story about a family with trials and tribulations, a HOT romance between the hero and heroine, and the love that all of them have for their community--the world community. In The Forbidden, we see the characters go up against a very old demon, Lilith. But to really understand what's going on, readers should start with "Minion," book 1 in the series and they can see snippets of all the books as the saga progresses at www.vampirehuntress.com. My characters are working on the side of The Light.

"NikkiWoods" [11:35 A.M.]: I am back reading. Meaning, I started at the fifth book and working my way back.

"L.A Banks" [11:35 A.M.]: LOL!

"NikkiWoods" [11:35 A.M.]: I am now a fan and will be looking for more of your other works, but I do want to finish with this series first. I think my favorite theme is "knowing." Can you talk a little bit about that and what message you would like your readers to walk away with?

"L.A Banks" [11:36 A.M.]: That's the crazy part; I am concurrently working in three genres. I write at least 2 romances annually, a crime thriller, plus two of the vamp legend books. Ah... “knowing”... This entire Vampire Huntress Legends series is about "knowing" -- how knowledge is power, and how what you don't know can and will hurt you, affect you, have bearing on your life whether you are ignorant of what's going on, or not. Each character has to come into "knowing," and once they know, they can never go back. Throughout the series, they experience exponential growth... learning themselves, others, the supernatural realms, and knowing their role in the world--each person, each soul being vitally important to the struggle between good versus evil. Yeah... it's ALL about knowing, and I infuse a LOT of history, science, economics and politics into this legend. Global economics, and all that through metaphor.

"NikkiWoods" [11:40 A.M.]: Which is what makes it so brilliant. I apologize for jumping around a bit, but there is so much depth to you that I want to try and touch on a little of everything.

"L.A Banks" [11:40 A.M.]: That's quite all right :)

"NikkiWoods" [11:40 A.M.]: You mentioned that you are concurrently writing in three different genres. How do you structure your writing schedule?

"L.A Banks" [11:43 A.M.]: LAWDY.... ha ha ha! Okay, here's how it goes daily. Get the kids and husband out of the house to work and school, grab a cup of coffee, and get to work at 8 am without fail, clear out e-mails from fans, etc., and then by 9-9:30 am, I begin on a book, or a chapter. I stay with that same book to get my rhythm in the story and follow it through until folks start coming home. I break, fix dinner, and after dinner, address e-mails... the next morning, I clean my palate, and work on another book. Whichever story I'm feeling, is what I write that day, but I stay there for the day with the goal to do 20-25 pages, or a whole chapter per book, each day.

"NikkiWoods" [11:44 A.M.]: So it is like a 9 to 5 for you. I think there tends to be the mis-conception with non-writers that you just kinda write when you feel like it.

"L.A Banks" [11:45 A.M.]: Pulleaaaase, LOL. No. It's a JOB, a profession, as well as a craft, and you have to work just like you were going to meet the man. 9-5, M-F, 8 to 10 hours a day. Yep, that's what's real.

"NikkiWoods" [11:45 A.M.]: So do you ever face writer's block? And if so, how do you overcome it?

"L.A Banks" [11:46 A.M.]: No, LOL! Girl, I ain't got time to bleed, ha ha ha! I have 2-3 different editors at any given time who ain't trying to hear about my Muse being fickle. If I can't think of a good passage, I get down and research, but I work every day :) Each time you research, it lifts any block, because your mind absorbs new information, new concepts, new ways of looking at a problem--and ANYTHING can be research... a news story, a commercial for a location, a book, an internet site, whatever.

"NikkiWoods" [11:48 A.M.]: Fascinating. Who do you read? When you are not working, that is! :)

"L.A Banks" [11:50 A.M.]: Hmmm... good question--because nowadays, I have so little time, and reading while writing is impossible for me. But during down time: Tanarive Due, Diane McKinney Whetstone, Tina McElroy Ansa (LOVED "The Hand I Fan With!), uhmmm... plus a lot of biographies and non-fiction--Yvonne Latty's, "We Were There" on Blacks in the military, a must for your shelves. Colin Channer, the brother can WRITE a sensual scene, LOL.

"NikkiWoods" [11:51 A.M.]: I love Colin Channer!

"L.A Banks" [11:51 A.M.]: YEP, he's DA Bomb!

"NikkiWoods" [11:52 A.M.]: What is your take on the direction that African American literature is going in?

"L.A Banks" [11:53 A.M.]: I, sigh. I am very glad that more authors are writing in different genres, glad that more of us are in print during this boom period, but I am sooo sad that a lot of it is the rehashed ghetto struggle tale. I wish we'd branch out more into areas that we haven't touched, or barely skimmed... Here's an example: When I began in romance, early 90's, there were MAYBE 10 African American authors in that genre... in an industry segment that was over 50% of ALL paperbacks sold in the US, and where the readers were one-third African American and Latina. We just weren't given access, and as black women, we'd put the big non-African American romance writers in their limos and Rolls Royces--aka, Daniel Steele. Now, we have like 85+ African American female romance writers... but in the area of crime, there's only a few. In horror, less than ten, and I'm one of them. In sci-fi, we have the grand diva, Octavia Butler, and about 5-7 more, but that's it. Do you see what I mean? We have non-fiction on lock, as the kids say. But where are we in other areas? We have maybe 50 general fiction writers, but in the various niches, we are severely under represented... and this whole Street fiction boom concerns me. We live very different lives than that (only), and have more tales to tell beyond that--only... It makes me weary, truthfully.

"NikkiWoods" [11:59 A.M.]: Well, I am going to leave the sci-fi to you! LOL ....

"L.A Banks" [11:59 A.M.]: LOL!

"NikkiWoods" [11:59 A.M.]: I think with anything, if it looks like it could potentially be prosperous then people jump on it. The stars in every genre will always shine through. I am sure you are always asked what advice you would give writers trying to get that coveted publishing deal ....

"L.A Banks" [12:01 P.M.]: Smile... yes, the stars do shine through, and in that way, what is happening in African American literature, is like what's going on in the music industry--which is why I HAD to take a pot shot at it in the legend, smile! But, as to advice... I say, write what you know as an axiom, but expand your mind so you can KNOW more and therefore write outside the box. People have gone through their "phase" when urban lit was red hot, now they are getting bored. So, if you want to get published, bring something new to the game, a different twist a fresh perspective. You don't have to abandon the hip hop sound, but give it a lil' somthin' somthin' different.

"L.A Banks" [12:04 P.M.]: But nothing beats the basics--like good craftsmanship, quality research, decent grammar, a well structured story, characters with depth and development. As the market becomes more sophisticated, you've gotta bring your best game. A lot of folks "rode in" on the wave, and yeah, they got phat-paid. But like all trends, that will not last, good, solid writing does.

"NikkiWoods" [12:05 P.M.]: I want you to be my writing Mommy! I just love you .....

"L.A Banks" [12:05 P.M.]: LOL--consider it done :)

"NikkiWoods" [12:05 P.M.]: And I can only hope that every one of your fans get to meet you in person

"L.A Banks" [12:05 P.M.]: Bless you!

"NikkiWoods" [12:05 P.M.]: You really have a spirit about you that is warm and engaging and you are honestly just a whole lot of fun .... .

"L.A Banks" [12:06 P.M.]: I LOVE meeting fans, talking with them, hearing what they think of the stories and characters... that is FUN, the best part of it all!

"NikkiWoods" [12:06 P.M.]: and for the record I am a witness to you going above and beyond the call of duty to make things happen for your readers .....

"L.A Banks" [12:06 P.M.]: Aw... lady, thank you!

"NikkiWoods" [12:06 P.M.]: I know your time is valuable and I so appreciate you taking the time to talk ......

"L.A Banks" [12:06 P.M.]: Any time, hon... any time, for real!

>>After finishing the interviewing and sending some more internet hugs, I had some follow up questions that were not touched on in the interview.<<

"NikkiWoods": I also wanted you to mention your film options. How has that been for you? What stage of the process are you in? What role will you play? Who do you see acting in the roles of your characters?

"L.A Banks": Oh, wow... the whole film option thing is a TRIP! Here's how it works, they first just option your film--which is an agreement which takes it off the market for any other production company, and gives the production company 18 months to develop a script (from which a budget can be developed--as the studios have to know how many actors to be paid, scenes set where, things blowing up, special FX, etc.) Once they have a script and a budget, a "package that can be shopped," they then go solicit the studios--and only once a deal is "greenlighted" do you move forward to the "it's definitely gonna be a movie stage." That's where I am now, waiting for the final budget and shop action to occur, biting my nails and praying that it gets sufficient budget to be done right.

As far as involvement, on this maiden voyage into Hollywood, I was told to "stand down." As the writer, I don't have a single thing to do with casting, cannot be in it (LOL), or any of that. But next venture, I'll want consulting rights to be able to weigh in on the script, at least (wink!)

"NikkiWoods": And finally how do you deal with differences with editors? You said you can have up to three at a time.

"L.A Banks": But each editor is like having different bosses, each with their own personality and style. Crazy at times, but I've been blessed with good ones--praise God, so there isn't any struggle. I just have to be honest when we go to contract and establish what I already have on my docket so they know when I can realistically deliver their project to them.

I hope this helps! BIG HUG and thanks again soooo much!

Now you see why I am one of her biggest fans ……

I've been blogged!

I never thought I would become a blogger. So Lord knows when I became a blogger that had been blogged by another blogger, it was nothing short of a mind blowing discovery.

Here is what I discovered on the website of a Chicago Highschool student:

Saturday, July 02, 2005 :

Nikki Woods Has a Blogger Account?

Nikki Woods Writes

I seriously wouldn't have seen this coming. I know of Nikki through the morning radio playing that my grandmother does while she drove me to school, but who knew she has a weblog?

Actually, I shouldn't even be surprised. Blogging is mainstream. Everyone has one. But you know, it was a nice surprise seeing a Chicagoland radio personality posting little innocent things on the internet.

Her response was to the post about my grandmother.

SimpleKiwi said... If this isn't the most loving thing I've read to date, I don't know what is. :) This seriously made my day.

I think I've arrived (very tongue in cheek)! Thanks Shara! BLOG .... you're it!

You can look Shara's blog up on line at: http://www.wtsa.blogspot.com

My first interview - I just had to share!

Easier Said Than Done - Cover

Author Spotlight: April 22, 2005 with Nikki Woods

Keith Lee Johnson: Tell us about your debut novel, Easier Said Than Done.

Nikki Woods: Easier Said Than Done is a novel that is set in Chicago and Jamaica. It is about a woman, Kingston, that has experienced some terrible tragedies in life. Despite that she has become a successful entertainment executive in Chicago. But then her grandmother dies and she has to go back to Jamaica for the funeral. It is then that she is forced to deal with the issues of her past.

Keith Lee Johnson: People who don't write have said an author's first novel is autobiographical. Is this true in your case?

Nikki Woods: It is not autobiographical but I have definitely drawn upon experiences from my life. For example, I work in the entertainment industry and my mother is Jamaican. Those are probably the two biggest correlations between the book and my life.

Keith Lee Johnson: And how long did it take you to write this one?
Nikki Woods: It took me probably about four years. I started this book right before I met my husband. We got married and I had two babies so the book got placed on the back burner. My oldest son is now three and I finished the book right before his third birthday. I am just finishing up my second book that only took six months but I was on a strict writing schedule.

Keith Lee Johnson: How long have you been writing?

Nikki Woods: Ever since I could. I have books that I 'published' in fourth grade. It was about the hamster I got for Christmas. I have always written but it is just recently that I have actively decided to publish my work.

Keith Lee Johnson: What made you decide to publish now?

Nikki Woods: When I first started writing Easier Said Than Done I would share it with a friend of mine almost daily. She would always push me to publish. Then a mentor of mine from work read some of what I had written and she pushed me to publish. Both were phenomenal women and both died within a year of each other in the prime of their lives. There was no way I couldn't publish this book.

Keith Lee Johnson: Wow! So does any of the novel pertain to your to wonderful friends?

Nikki Woods: Not really. That book is in the works. This novel does speak to the strength of friendship and family. Both of these women not only were mentors and friends but they paved the way in this business. They knew about dreams and going after them no matter what others had to say. This book symbolizes that to me...going after your dream.

Keith Lee Johnson: By this business, I take it you mean the radio business of which you are a celebrity in Chicago?

Nikki Woods: Yes to the radio part. I'll get back to you on celebrity. (Laugh)

Keith Lee Johnson: Easier Said Than Done has been described as a cross between Terry McMillian and Kimberla Lawson Roby. Tell us what that means as some of the readers may not have reader their work.

Nikki Woods: That description was probably made by my mother. I hope what it means that I can relate a good story to the reader. Terry McMillan and Kimberla Lawson Roby are at the top of this game. They can tell extraordinary stories about ordinary people. It is flattering to even read my name along side theirs. But, I have a long way to go.

Keith Lee Johnson: What's your favorite reading genre?

Nikki Woods: That is a tough one. I think like most people, a lot of times it depends on my mood. I love crime/suspense and romance. I am also a big fan of historical pieces. Then you throw Tananarive Due and Octavia Butler in...I love a good story no matter the genre.

Keith Lee Johnson: Okay, well, perhaps you can tell us who some of your favorite authors are and which of their books you found particularly memorable.

Nikki Woods: My favorite authors include but are not limited to: Bernice McFadden, Terry McMillan, Kimberla Lawson Roby, Yolanda Joe, Nora Roberts, James Patterson, Maya Angelou, J. California Cooper the list goes on and on and I am discovering new authors that I enjoy as well such as Tayari Jones. I am a fan of words and how words are put together. Everyone does it differently.

Keith Lee Johnson: Getting publishing is very difficult. How did you accomplish it and how long did it take?

Nikki Woods: It didn't take that long. I emailed part of the manuscript to an acquaintance of mine that I knew was involved in literary circles. I just wanted the opinion of a 'professional'. She emailed back and wanted to know who had written it and when I told her me, she was floored. She loved it and little did I know she owned a publishing company right here in Chicago.

Keith Lee Johnson: Ahh, see, now some of the readers are going to be jealous! LOL! Most of us get turned down many times before we get a break through. And here you come knowing people in the biz, which leads me to my next question. How do you like the biz so far and the politics of it?

Nikki Woods: Now comes the hard questions. Before I decided to publish, I thought writing the book was the difficult part. Little did I know! Don't get me wrong, writing anything ain't no easy thing so big props to those who have written anything be it a book, poem or song. But this publishing thing is no picnic. From edits to rewrites, it is a challenge. And then yes, there is a political aspect to this game as well. If I had to self-publish I would have said forget it a long time ago but thanks to Cheryl at EbonyEnergy for holding my hand and walking me through it. But I have met a lot of great people -- such as yourself -- that has been willing to share their knowledge with me.

Keith Lee Johnson: Can you elaborate on the politics aspect without mentioning specific names, places, and dates?

Nikki Woods: Wow! Put on the spot!

Keith Lee Johnson: Yes. I tend to do that.

Nikki Woods: Writing is a business just like any other and unfortunately there is a competitive aspect to it that I was naive enough to be unaware of. Just as I said, many people have opened their arms but there are others that don't seem quite as excited about it for whatever reason. But I think you find that in anything. Being in radio -- another aspect of the entertainment business for more than ten years has toughened my skin a bit so it doesn't bother me anymore. Well, not that much! :)

Keith Lee Johnson: Okay, let's shift gears a bit. What are your thoughts on the state of affairs in the black community? For example, Comedian Bill Cosby mentioned the seventy percent dropout rate months ago. What are your thoughts on this?

Nikki Woods: I think that we are at a critical time in black communities. I think that the dropout rate is too high for the year to be 2005. We have college graduates that can't find a job in their chosen field. People with master and doctorate degrees that are unemployed. Imagine the pressure of trying to get a decent paying job as a high school drop out. Can it be done? Sure but it just puts you ten steps behind your counterparts. But what do we do about it? It's overwhelming to think of all the work that needs to be done to turn things around and the majority of the people that I talk to are reluctant to get involved because they think that there's nothing they can do that will make a difference. The village is falling apart.

Keith Lee Johnson: The question that begs to be asked is, why? Why is the village falling apart?

Nikki Woods: That is the question, isn't it? I think there are a multitude of reasons. Lack of education, lack of role models, the prevalence of drugs in our communities, complacency. When you look at the big picture it can be overwhelming. I don't have the answer. I wish I did. For me, it has been to start at home. Make a difference in my church, in my community and hope it translates to the bigger picture.

Keith Lee Johnson: It seems as if the lack of education, role models/parenting, and drugs are tied together. Would you agree with that?

Nikki Woods: I agree. It's cliché to say but it's a vicious circle. But you gotta start somewhere. You can't be afraid to just start. How does the saying go, "A journey of one thousand miles starts with just one step?"

Keith Lee Johnson: What then is the first step?

Nikki Woods: I think it is different for everyone. And the degree of the step may be different, if you know what I mean. Education is my passion so that is where I started. Talking to young people about staying in school is what I'm good at. I can tell you to stay off drugs but it may have more of an impact from someone that has been there and experienced that.

Keith Lee Johnson: As far as drugs are concerned, how about this: Let's make parents more accountable to some higher authority, forcing them to be the role models that they ought to be without a law enforcement agency's involvement. For example, why do we have to have a government agency to make men financially support the children they sired?

Nikki Woods: Because some men don't. Just because people should do something doesn't mean they will. Just like some women don't take care of their children. It's unfortunate but it's true. Statistics show that the number one reason minorities are fired from their job is because they don't make it to work on time. Says a lot about priorities.

Keith Lee Johnson: My point is, if we're willing to create an agency to force men to pay what they owe, why not expand it further and make parents rear their children with some measure of self-respect or face jail time.

Nikki Woods: Who is going to determine the criteria for how to raise a child? It's a fine line. A fine political line. I am sure how I raise my son is a lot different than how President Bush raised his daughters. Obviously there are guidelines for gross abuse and mistreatment ...

Keith Lee Johnson: Perhaps we should adopt some of the methods that worked in the past. It worked for me and it obviously worked for you. Someone came along about 40 years ago and said those people were wrong and now look where we are. Not only is the black community in trouble, but the United States is in serious decline, much like their Roman and Greek predecessors.

Nikki Woods: Yes, we are in serious decline. But will what worked back then work now? I don't know. For example: when I was growing up, I couldn't do anything on the block and get away with it. My neighbors had full rights to spank, chastise, whatever they deemed necessary when my parents weren't around. So did I act crazy? No because I was scared of the repercussions. Not three months ago I said something to a teenage boy that lives around my house about using foul language when my three year old is outside playing. His mother had a problem with that. So now who do I go to?

Keith Lee Johnson: That's just it, Nikki! When I was growing it was the same thing. Everybody told me what to do. And I wouldn't dare tell my mom about it, knowing I would get another beating. And people call that abuse today. But, it kept me out of jail and I was reared in a Toledo Ghetto. I guess we would have to get the majority of parents to remember how things were done back then and how we didn't have to worry about the children coming to school killing one another. Well this has been nice. Is there anything else you'd like to say that I have not covered?

Nikki Woods: Keith, you're making my blood pressure go up! (Laugh)

Keith Lee Johnson: I'll leave that alone.

Nikki Woods: I think we have covered a lot and I have enjoyed it! It will take conversations like this one to get the ball moving in the right direction. Thank you for having me.

Keith Lee Johnson: So no questions for me?

Nikki Woods: Uh, just one. When are you going to satisfy your readers with a sequel to Little Black Girl Lost! You left us with Johnnie Wise still at sixteen. I want to know what happens to her...

Keith Lee Johnson: Well, funny you should ask as I have spoken with Carl Weber who publishes that line of books and we're looking at next February. However, keep in mind that Johnnie is only sixteen. She has a lot of growing up to do. But...if you gotta know how her life ended up, buy Fate's Redemption as she is in that book. The book isn't about here, but she's like 65. But know that you won't see how everything happens until I write her novels.

Nikki Woods: Alright, guess I'm gonna be hitting Border's today. Thanks for all that you do, Keith.

Keith Lee Johnson: It came out May 17. Before I let you go, tell us where we can get your book? What's the ISBN?

Nikki Woods: You can look me up on line at www.NikkiWoods.com. You can pre-order through the website and if you do that - you will get an autographed copy. Everything is posted there. The ISBN number for Easier Said Than Done is 0-9755092-6-8. I look forward to hearing what everyone thinks about it! You can order it by the ISBN at any bookstore and on-line at www.EbonyEnergyPublishing.com or www.amazon.com.

Keith Lee Johnson: Great! Thanks so much for your valuable time. My readers will enjoy you, I'm sure. Best wishes in all things good.

Nikki Woods: Same to you, Keith. Look forward to meeting you in person.

Keith Lee Johnson: Are you going to be at any of the events I'm going to be at?

Nikki Woods: I'm not sure as yet. I hope so because you've been great!